This is my dad and I… I must’ve been 5/6! He passed away and as I celebrate Father’s Day every year I really wish he could’ve seen how good I am at being a father, a husband, and a man. I know there must be so many of us guys today that either don’t have our dads, dislike our dads, or are apart from our fathers due to distance.
My fathers wasn’t present, was extremely hard working and he was dam good at what he did. He often broke my mother’s heart and struggled from depression and paranoia. I grew up disconnected from him but longed for him in secret! The older I became all I wanted was for him to cheer me on, to be the role model a father should be, to be present …he wasn’t.
Now before you go thinking my dad was a monster, he was far from that! He was and will always be a hero to me. He worked so dam hard just to give us a life that was without wanting. He did however struggle to be a father … but I know he struggled because he himself had a father that never showed him love, never hugged him, always excluded him, and did not show any affection.
A couple of things I wish to leave with us men, more specifically to my people that are dads! I hope you get celebrated endlessly, I hope that you able to show the world the glory behind being a man!
Don’t ever shy away from being an expressive father, shower your wife and kids with love, hugs, kisses, and be vulnerable with them … It’s never too late to be present!
Big hugs, J
And a shout out to the incredible fathers I know personally … you guys are all phenomenal fathers and together we will shape a whole new generation of kids that pass on the baton of love!